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[Book Club: NonFiction Review] Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari

Title: Modern Romance

Series: No

Author: Aziz Ansari

Publisher: Penguin Press

Published Date: June 16th, 2015

Genre: NonFiction, Romance, Humor

 Format: EBook

Pages: 277

Rating: 4 Stars

Synopsis (From Goodreads)

A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices

At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it’s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated?

Some of our problems are unique to our time. “Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?” “Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!” “My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who’s Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?”

But the transformation of our romantic lives can’t be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty-four. Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.

For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world’s leading social scientists, including Andrew Cherlin, Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humor book we’ve seen before.

In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.


My Review

Modern Romance was definitely a surprise for me. I figured I would like it based solely on the fact that I LOVE Aziz Ansari, however I really adored this book.

It was a lot more educated and structured than I imagined it would be. I had imagined a lot of tongue in cheek humor, probably a lot of graphic and even a little prejudiced or sexist humor. After all Ansari is a comedian, and probably the very last person you would think to give dating advice.

This was not the case at all! In fact this book was definitely NOT laugh out loud funny. It was more of a warm chuckle and even a smile kind of funny; which was perfect!

Ansari really mastered the balance of funny, ridiculous situations that are gold to comedy, and the real life incredibly complicated problems faced to modern singles. He really lays out the gist of modern dating and its problems in a well-educated and thoughtful manner, without feeling like you are reading a science paper.

This was an amazing and very interesting look into modern dating and all of the issues as well as the successes that come along with finding love in a digital era. I definitely recommend this book!

This was the Non-Fiction pick for February March for It’s Not Just A Book Club

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